Here and now Climate change is very much in the news, which got me thinking about eco-friendly shibari tuition and how our businesses stand in this respect. I’ll come back to that later but I want to talk about what’s happening now. It’s all well and good protesting, expecting somebody else to solve the problem, …
The question to answer before ‘How can I learn shibari? I decided to make a new video, ‘What is shibari?’, because I see so many posts on Fetlife asking “Where/how can I learn shibari?”. The problem being that nobody ever clarifies what they mean by shibari. If you follow these posts, you’ll see all manner …
Beyond ‘Tying people, not parcels’ In my first shibari tutorials for beginners, ‘Japanese Rope Bondage: Tying people, not parcels‘, my focus was on teaching ties and how to perform them with connection. In ‘Shibari: The Easy Way‘, we develop this approach further by both simplifying learning by explaining the basic building blocks and by teaching …
The Pleasure of Rope is undoubtedly the definitive shibari documentary, especially now there is a full 3-DVD version out now with an extra 100 minutes of unseen footage! As with all these things, the director submitted a lot of footage he expected to get rejected by our censors, the BBFC. However, we are delighted to …
I have been kindly allowed to reproduce this excellent article on shibari performance from Amekitsune’s blog which talks about reactions to performances and, in particular, from mainstream audiences. By the way, if you are already a performer, model or considering becoming one, ShibariClasses have started a new series just for you to help you on your …
I wrote some years ago ‘Bondage for people, not parcels’ for Rope, Bondage, and Power by Robert J. Rubel, Ph.D. and Lee Harrington to try to explain the psychology of bondage. I think it still stands up well today, in spite of the fact that the art of shibari is evolving exponentially in the west. Even five years is …
No doubt many of you will have read Gorgone’s posts and witnessed the ensuing furor about her consent violation and the subsequent poor handling of the situation. Things like this are always unpleasant but she is keen for something positive to come out of it, so has started this initiative which she has asked me to share. The …
There has been much ado in the UK about the recent regulations which specifically state that only sexual content that is equivalent to the BBFC R18 Category can be sold via video on demand services which they deem to be TV-like in nature. R18 is surprisingly inclusive as it seems to cover a lot of …
It has long struck me that there’s big hole in the English language when it comes to describing the two parties in bondage. Yes, we have ‘rigger’ as a word for the active party but this can get confusing as it also applies to theatrical riggers who hang up stage equipment and the like. I suppose there is …
D/s and protocol can be wonderful instruments for developing submissives in a positive way. A benevolent Dom/me can use them as a tremendous power of good in ways that reach far beyond merely play interaction. It can instil a sense of self-worth, be used to promote a desire to learn, develop self-discipline and punctuality…the list …