This is work in progress but hopefully we can all add to it for a useful resource: VENUES This is by no means exhaustive or any guarantee there will be shows on any given night. Mistress bars usually work on a ‘system’ charging men a high hourly fee, and women little or nothing, which includes …
I’d say most of the real knowledge on kinbaku only started to get a foothold in the west about 5 years ago. Almost all of us, including me, seem have underestimated the subject and undoubtedly still do. Every time I think I have gained a reasonable degree of understanding, another layer is revealed. There seem …
It struck me recently that the only information we have on the loading of the wraps of a box-tie is anecdotal and we take it largely on trust that the inverted-Y is usually the best way of attaching a suspension line. I have speculate elsewhere that it might actually distribute load better if both wraps …
A very sensible article published on April 15, 2009 by Jennifer Sweeton in Out of the Ordinary: Sadomasochism can be considered a type of sexual play, preference, or identity where an individual derives satisfaction from receiving pain, inflicting pain, or both. Often called “S&M,” sadomasochism is part of a large category of consensual sex practices …
I recently came across a couple of “shibari performance” videos recently that demonstated nothing more than shambari executed in a shambolic and unsafe manner posted by people offering lessons in shibari. I’m not talking about just poor style, I mean really ignoring basic safety. As a result, I felt complelled to start a thread, called …
This is an interesting article by Zule that he has kindly allowed me to reproduce about the biochemistry of submission: When I was invited by CUADERNOS DE BDSM to write this article, the purpose was explaining the biochemistry of pain. But I am afraid I have mainly gotten to generate new doubts instead giving explanations. …
Here’s something I wrote back in 2004 about the psychology of bondage and why people do it. I need to review it and probably amend and add to it but, that said, I think most of it still stands in spite of having learned a lot since. I will try to explain why people do …
This is my friend Hedwig’s (pictured above with Clover) undergraduate dissertation. She finished it in 2011 and presented it at Stockholm Pride to a very receptive and appreciative audience… including her mother, so this was quite an emotionally charged coming out about bondage as well. In it, she explores previous research into kink in general …
I was reminded how it feels to be presented with new techniques on the Kazami Ranki course and how hard it is to remember ties, even with my knowledge and experience. I can imagine how daunting it is for a complete beginner who doesn’t have my years of rope handing experience or tuition from some …
I am always a sucker for pictures of beautiful tattooed Japanese girls in rope, so this guy’s work caught my eye. Tr@sh, with typical Japanese modesty, hasn’t given me much information about his work, but he has kindly allowed me to publish a series of kinbaku photos taken at “Elfen Lied”, an SM bar in …