Keeping safe on the BDSM scene

Given recent discussions on Fetlife, it seemed a good idea to provide a resource containing some of the excellent advice already written on this subject and any useful links.

These links contain advice on establishing limits, negotiation, avoiding misunderstandings, staying safe, identifying manipulation and recognising types of abusers etc. Take the advice as you will. Just because it is here doesn’t mean I agree with every word 🙂 Use your critical faculties and common-sense! Some are intended to stimulate discussion or have comments as or more interesting than the article itself.

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